• Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to footer
The Resilience Institute

The Resilience Institute

Resilience training and research

  • Solutions
    • Workplace
    • For Individuals
    • Coaches
  • Results
  • About
    • Our Global Team
    • Our Story
    • Dr Sven Hansen
    • Resources
    • Resilience Spiral
    • Our Coaches
  • Resilience App
  • Insights
Contact Us

Own your joy

You are here: Home / Insights / Own your joy

May 24, 2018 by Dr Sven Hansen

The purpose that rises above all

One thing every human seeks is joy. More commonly it is called happiness – a positive or pleasurable emotion. The evolution of joy is clearly based on our need to seek survival. From the simplest bacterium to the most evolved human, three billion years have embedded the drive for joy into life. When we take a moment to reflect, it will be joy that we seek above all else.

For the bacteria it is simple: move away from threat (anger), suffering (sadness) and starvation (fear) and seek safety (calm), comfort (contentment) and satiety (fullness). We share this with all species on the planet. For many of us, that continues to be the main game in town. An increasing number of us lurch with little awareness between anger, sadness and fear. Whole communities can be lost to joy. Many simply grasp for the easiest scraps of joy to be found in sugar, drugs, sex, domination, etc.

We can do so much better.

There are many shades of pleasurable emotion. At one end we have schadenfreude, which is to enjoy the misery of others. At the other we have bliss, exuberance and contentment. Explore your joyous options. There is no more creative and satisfying pursuit.

It is surprisingly simple. Just practise!

From the most simple, physical and proven to more esoteric here are 15 pathways to joy.

  1. Use your chopstick for two minutes per day
  2. Secure eye contact and smile at every greeting
  3. Watch, read or share something funny every day
  4. Throw your head back and laugh out loud
  5. Take each of the words above and find a memory that matches
  6. When you feel pleasure, positivity or lightness, name the emotion
  7. Relate a happy moment to loved ones every day
  8. Meditate, contemplate or pray with a different version of joy
  9. Make Friday a day to focus fully on maximising your expression of pleasure and joy
  10. When you notice a worry, exhale slowly and appreciate this moment
  11. When you ruminate on the past, exhale slowly and appreciate this moment
  12. Seriously improve your sleep discipline: length, timing and quality
  13. Exercise, even if a brief short burst, every single day
  14. Seek sunshine for 20 minutes per day
  15. Fast for a day a week

The single biggest delusion

Consumer economics has successfully convinced the world that happiness comes from outside. We deserve it, are entitled to, have to buy, must get, need this medicine, will be happy when…

Expecting something or someone to give you joy is clearly delusional. Consumption takes us from joy to anger, disappointment, anxiety, and shame.

Joy is internal. It is a human responsibility, not a right or entitlement. We find joy in our bodies, our emotions and our minds. This is the ultimate privilege of being human. It is your responsibility to explore, discover, train and learn how to express your joy.

Ha-ha-ha-ha!

 

Category iconInsights,  Mind,  News

Measure, learn and achieve resilience

Discover the Resilience App – a toolkit that builds personal resilience. Available for you or your team.

Resilience Solutions
Ready to build resilience?

We are here to support you. Contact us to start the conversation.

Contact Us

Footer

The Resilience Institute

+64 21 367 654

[email protected]

  • Cookie Policy
  • Exercise Your Rights
  • GDPR
  • Privacy Policy
  • Terms and Conditions
  • About Us
  • Careers
  • Contact
  • Frequently Asked Questions
  • Our Teams

Newsletter

Get the latest news, events and announcements straight to your inbox.

  • Facebook
  • LinkedIn
  • Vimeo

Copyright © 2021 The Resilience Institute.  Return to top